Transgender Man Lashes Out At Nurses Who Call Him ‘Mom’ After He Had A Baby.

The world is always evolving, but for some individuals, the pace of change can feel too slow. This has been particularly evident for many transgender people lately, who often find themselves needing to reiterate their perspectives.

Not everyone has embraced the practice of being mindful about pronoun usage. Gender identity remains a contentious issue, and it can occasionally spark heated discussions.

A recent example of this was when 37-year-old Bennett Kaspar-Williams welcomed their child, Hudson, through a cesarean section, with the support of their husband, Malik. The delivery went smoothly.

Although Kaspar-Williams identifies as male and uses he/him/his pronouns, they have faced challenges along the way. Currently, they identify as non-binary and prefer they/them pronouns.

One significant issue arose when, after the birth, the nursing staff referred to Kaspar-Williams as a mother rather than a father, which he found offensive.

Kaspar-Williams recognized his transgender identity in 2011 and underwent surgery by 2014. While he had surgery on his upper body, he chose not to alter his lower body.

He found the experience of pregnancy and childbirth rewarding, but felt disheartened by the medical staff’s lack of understanding and their insistence on mislabeling him.

Despite having indicated his preferred gender on medical forms, the nursing staff continued to misgender him after Hudson’s birth. This experience has motivated him to advocate for the understanding that childbirth is not inherently tied to gender.

Kaspar-Williams emphasized the need to separate womanhood from motherhood. He reached out to a major news outlet to express his discomfort with being called “mom” repeatedly, despite having indicated his preferred title on the forms.

It’s impossible to truly know if having children is feasible until you attempt it—simply having a uterus doesn’t guarantee conception or a successful pregnancy. This is why we must move away from defining ‘womanhood’ solely through the lens of ‘motherhood.’ It creates a misleading assumption that every woman can become a mother, that all mothers bear their children, or that anyone who carries a child is a mother.

This debate will likely continue for many years ahead.